Seiden’s Rules for Giving Feedback (reprise)

Last year, I posted my rules for giving feedback. I did this because I noticed that most people are awful at giving feedback. The rules are back. Why? Because I just looked around and noticed that people are still awful at it. C’mon, folks, let’s pull it together here!

You know what to do. I know that’s not the problem. You’re not stupid. You can imagine the conversation, you know you have to do it, but something doesn’t compute and you just. can’t. get. it. done. You’re too nice. Too mean. Too squishy. Too hard. Too intense. Too distracted. Too worried about what happens next. Too focused on the moment and not at all attuned to what happens next. Whatever.

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